Online Dating: A Little Background

March 11, 2016

Here it is. The post most of you have been waiting for.

I made an instagram post a while ago asking what you would all like to see on the blog and well..

So, today (and for the rest of the month) we're talking about the wonderful world of online dating.

This blog post is going to be brief. Signing up for online dating is probably one of the worst decisions I've ever made. Let's be honest. There are too many types of people and I really didn't need to meet all of them. My life is pretty internet-based, so I don't really get out much in order to meet new people.

I'll get into why exactly I started online dating to give you all a little bit of a background. Long before I became the ferocious thotty I am today. At the time, I was 17. (You need to be 18 to sign up, I know.) Towards the end of the year I turned 17 I had broken up with my on & off boyfriend of around two years. (Hey D.) Sometime in February (last year), I had another boyfriend who I thought was just the hottest thing ever, like lemme tell you, he was fine. (Hey T.) We dated until around May/June when we broke up for so many reasons that are kind of irrelevant, but during this time I was in online school, so I kind of had nowhere to go from there. I was fine, though. I didn't need to be in a relationship, I had my friends and I was doing my thing and I was okay. I was advised by almost everyone in my life to try online dating- even to just "make friends." I resisted for so long, I felt like online dating is for 30-year-olds who can't find a man and 25 -year-olds who are looking to get laid- I was not having it. Until this one day, I was invited to my ex-boyfriend's brother's engagement dinner party (D, not T. - Don't ask, we were close.) D called me and told me that I'm invited to this dinner and I can bring a date, and I thought he was silly for even proposing that- He knew T and I were no longer together and I thought it was silly that my ex-boyfriend was telling me I could bring a date to his brother's engagement dinner. I told him that I'm not bringing a date and he asked if I was sure and followed this by "Maybe you should bring a friend because everyone else is bringing someone." We were together for a little over two years, our friends were mutual (Despite him being nearly 3 years older than me) - and I had realized that all my friends were in relationships and I was the only single one. Now, this wouldn't have bothered me, but it continued to be a regular occurrence where my friends either ceased to invite me or would 'bring someone' for me when we went out.

So, that got pretty annoying, so I decided to make an online dating site account. I thought I could make the best of it - either I end up with a new group of friends or a boyfriend to hang out with my friends with. (This reasoning seems so young teenage girl, I know but believe me, it wasn't as bad as it sounds.) By this point, I was too afraid to meet anyone in person. I always made excuses as to why I had experience with meeting people online, that was most of my pre-teen years. I had so many online friends, however, never anyone I was romantically interested in. It was hard because I knew I was chubbier in person, my face was rounder than it looks in my photos, I have an annoying voice, I talk too much or too little, etc. etc. I was literally picking myself apart over dudes on the internet. I had a lot of guys run for the hills when I told them I was 17 (as if I wasn't turning 18 in a month..) but eventually, I just stopped and deleted my account. Then I turned 18 (literally a month later..) and re-opened my account and for some reason, I became more confident in meeting people and then I met someone and got my feelings hurt. And then again. And then I got more confident in talking to people and rejection and then I got more confident in general.. and that's when the emotional thottness began...

So for the next month, we'll be talking about my emotional thotness in the "thotty chronicles" (No, I'm not actually calling them this.) - I'll explain what 'emotional thottness' actually is and I'll tell you my online dating stories. I will also be doing two online dating site reviews to go along with my "Tinder Experience" that y'all loved oh-so-much. As well as some first date tips and tricks and outfits, etc. So, stay tuned for all that starting Monday! But while you're waiting be sure to check out my Tinder Blogpost right here.

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